Treatment requires self-care, not self-destruction. You want to refrain from those things that make life worse in the long-term, but “good” in the short-term like, drugs, alcohol, reckless behavior, etc. This includes taking care of yourself with things that revive your heart, soul, and mind. It’s okay to have questions, but you cannot begin moving forward until you realize you may never have an answer. We aren’t super-human, neither are we capable of understanding all things that occur among our complex human existence. AcceptĪccept that you may never understand why something bad has happened. The human mind and soul are complex, so take notes. Processing a circumstance takes time and may take years until you get to a place of inner calm. However, the strongest people are those who can move on beyond their questions and find purpose. QuestionĪ lot of people have a lot of questions. Don’t rush this process, but be open to it. Sometimes, it isn’t until we go through the experience, experience all the emotions of the experience, and accept it happened that we begin to learn. But learning from the situation has a way of providing closure and helping us to move forward. It can be so difficult trying to process a painful situation and then learn from it. Here are a list of strategies and tips to start putting the pieces together and moving forward: 1. But it is only when you begin to merge the following together with your painful experience will you fully be on your way toward psychological, emotional, and spiritual healing. It means that you are using the only tools that you have right now. Acceptance doesn’t mean that you are ignoring the issue. There are things we all will have to come to terms with (within ourselves and possibly within others or the situation itself) in order to begin moving forward.Īcceptance of disappointment or hurt is the first step toward progress. We may never move forward in total “healing,” but the right tools can push us in a better direction.
#Pick up the pieces how to#
Moving forward may mean taking baby-steps and re-learning how to live life again. That perspective is often false and fantasized. But “moving forward” doesn’t always mean complete healing, success, or victory. Finding the motivation to actually move forward can take a long time. When have you fallen apart in your life? Was it when your dreams failed? Or was it when your divorce happened? Was it a mental health diagnosis? Or was it job loss? Whatever the case, falling apart requires that we eventually learn how to pick up the pieces of our life and start moving forward. Either way, no human will escape feeling as though they are falling apart. While at other times we come out of the dark, cold tunnel feeling even more confused and all alone. Sometimes we come out of the dark, cold tunnel feeling empowered or enlightened. It’s common for humans to experience life at varying levels during different times in our lives. The question on your mind is how can I get back on my feet? You are ready to begin picking up the pieces of your life and moving forward. Now you want to get back on your feet and STAND strong. But now the ground is giving way and you are slipping and tumbling and frantically trying to catch your breath! You have had enough of this roller coaster. And you thought you were walking on solid ground. You feel blinded, as though you are falling into a deep, dark slippery and bottomless pit with no grip or support. You may be going through such trying times in your life, career or relationships. You know the feeling too well, you feel tired of everything, overwhelmed and helpless. Our experiences change us and although we may not always be ready for change, change still occurs. There are so many things in life that have an impact on our perspective.